Oct. 26, 2018

RELATIONSHIPS This is an incredibly extensive topic but in reality it can be dissected and simplified. There are countless books, counselling sessions, seminars and movies all focused on relationships. Wars have been started over them! Such a powerful force. Something to remember about relationships that is of the utmost importance is that everyone has different wants and needs at any given moment. Let that permeate throughout your being as it can show how difficult relationships can truly be, especially when people are not aware and/or are under heavy programming. Relationships can be with your parents, your boss, your friends, your kids, your spouse, your siblings, places, food, TV shows, static objects and underneath all of this is the relationship between particles. One essential element to note is that sometimes people just do not get along... and that is okay. The most important relationship you can have is the one to Yourself / God / Source (they are not separate) or whatever you wish to name it. It will all flow from there. For the sake of this article we will be focusing mostly on partner or more intimate type of relationships and explore some of the ‘Patterning’. Let us start by examining a few traditional old school scenarios. If a woman expects a man to pay for a full date night due to certain 'values', they are creating inequality, an imbalance of energy and running an old outdated paradigm, perhaps even being manipulative. This can suggest that her time is worth more than his. Yet, if the man then expects the woman to put out afterwards how could she be angry? That is also an outdated program or paradigm, now on both parts. If a man expects a women to cook all the meals and do all of the cleaning, that once again is establishing inequality based on outdated programming. How about who is to call whom? That is a fun one. "The man is supposed to call the woman"... says who? In this day and age if you want to connect with someone then pick up the phone and call or text, maybe send an email. Gone are the days of putting the onus on one side to risk all the rejection or the other to wait for a seeming eternity. Any number of circumstances can be brought into question and also keep in mind that you can flip the script or insert ‘person’ instead of man/woman in the case of same sex relations. People can emotionally and/or energetically dump their stuff on you, consciously or unconsciously. Some classic examples might be: Let us say there is a female of small stature who is constantly nagging and belittling her big boyfriend, possibly hitting him every once in a while. Finally, one day he just loses it and yells at her or even worse shoves or hits her (I do not condone any of this situation). He is then perceived as a monster for that one occasion and she shows it off like a badge and continues her ways, yet who is the real monster? What people may not see is all of the events that led up to that moment including some dark energies working through her field (the things that very few people can see or possibly feel). Sad and manipulative all around and what can happen when people are not aware. Another example may be the textbook abusive boyfriend who tries to control his girlfriend by keeping her under lockdown and possibly beating her because she may have cheated on an ex-boyfriend in the distant past. She may be stuck in this relationship due to fear. He is projecting all of his insecurities and fear of loss into this relationship and on this girl. It is a prison for both of them and a horrible state of affairs all around. The examples could even be karma or patterns playing out from other times. It all depends on how people are programmed to interact with others which can be a ton of madness to deal with. There are many deeper levels to this in such acts as energetic cording, vamping, power struggles, bindings, spells, etc, a myriad of things that go on behind the scenes that were not even demonstrated in these situations. This alone should be motivation enough to become more consciously aware of your interactions and to pay attention. One must understand that people are at various levels of evolution in specific areas which adds to the already immense diversity within each of us. We all have a certain amount of baggage that we bring into any relationship as well. Your partner may hit a wall or have an issue which you know they won't get over while they are with you and it may be time to leave. Being with someone very conscious and aware is ideal but there are also many levels to that. There are many ego traps along the way and those starting out on the path can be introduced to new concepts yet not understand the deeper layers of their true meaning. As barriers and veils get torn down there can be a lashing out, things can get messy. Some people can also grow faster in certain areas than others. Another thing of significant note is that there are those who can actually see, know and feel things about their partner and understand exactly where they are coming from or at the very least identify the patterning and have great wisdom as to how it can be dealt with. Many would not believe it and others strongly dislike hearing such things but it is very true. Then again, some may try to intuit and be way off in their assessments due to their only having a limited view, having some programming kick in or they are projecting something onto the situation. See the article 'The Sensitive Person' for an expanded view. The bigger picture can be seen especially as one becomes more consciously aware and works through their 'stuff'. The gap in disparity may be too wide in each individual's evolution to be in an intimate relationship. We do our best to allow and when something becomes too depleting we may have to go off by ourselves for a time to heal and seal up the wounds. One does not have to be in a romantic relationship to grow. There is an old yogi saying something to the effect of, "Why got outside to see the flowers when you have a thousand petalled lotus within". This basically translates into opening the crown chakra and that all knowledge can be known from within. Relationships are fantastic and so is being off on your own. Follow your path and it may lead you to one, the other or both, many times over. Some people have a specific purpose in this lifetime that doesn't involve a family or a romantic relationship. See 'The Calling & The Path'. Vibrational frequencies can draw beings together through some form of attraction but like does not always attract like. A very evolved being may be surrounded by darkness or one might have that particular issue that needs work and that is what they manifest. Sometimes one might be tricked or manipulated into a situation. People may also be brought together to clear up 'Unfinished Business' from other times (See 'Karma' and 'Patterning'). Betrayal and perceived betrayal can sting to the core. This emotional trauma can stay with you for lifetimes! See 'Other Lives (Reincarnation)'. Sometimes we are used as mirrors for others to show certain aspects. Sometimes we show joy and other times more darker aspects. We may challenge another's programming and belief systems which can be upsetting. We can also show potential abilities and attributes. Sometimes there are soul agreements to carry out a purpose together. See if you are able to discern what is going on. The bottom line is that when you are together you are a team, yet you may have individual goals. Opening up your energy field to another is serious business. A lot of things can happen on may levels. With the 'right' person magical things can occur. With the 'wrong' person there can be very harmful consequences. Remember... All energy is heard, there are no secrets. I will keep driving that point home. One has to be honest with themselves and others along with owning up to their actions, words and even thoughts. Feel... Look for the feeling behind the idea of the relationship and that might give you some answers. What would you do if you were fully in your power? Would you still be at that job? Would you still be with your partner? Are you together just to save money? Is it for the sex or a trophy aspect, to make a life together or to conquer and dominate the other? Is it for the kids, for the fear of being alone or is it a comfortable prison? Is your evolution going in different directions? Are you looking to ascend and while other is not? There are many questions to ask. Be honest with yourself. If you feel that you are truly in your power then decisions must be made. Sometimes the choice is made for you or done on a higher level. Pay attention to the energy. What if one partner is conscious and the other is not? What if both are to certain extents. How about those who are empathic. Communication is key or you may need to step back and clear some things on your own. It is up to you about how you wish to interact with another. Some of the emotions and energies you are experiencing may have nothing to do with your current relationship as it is literally just your own stuff. It may be triggered by the relationship or just simply coming up to be processed from daily living in and of itself. Knowledge, understanding and sensitivity all play a role and you may find that for sanity you might need to be alone or find someone more in alignment with where you are at or where you wish to be going to. You can be living in the same house with someone yet be living in completely different worlds due to the diversity in consciousness. Are you on the same page, same chapter or even same book?! When people are on the same page or same sentence then magic can occur. It also depends on what you are looking for from the relationship. One may have the goal of partying all the time while the other may be looking to heal and spend more quality time together. How well do you think that will go? If people are attempting to manifest as a couple then their visions have to be on the same page. If each each individual's vision is drastically different then good luck in manifesting a desired shared outcome. Remember that the shared vision includes both the conscious and unconscious aspects of each person which also means their unintegrated parts (see the article 'Tribe of One'). That is more of the personality aspect but now we must factor in the purpose of each soul incarnate as well. All of these things are playing a little tug-of-war (in many directions) on a vision that is usually not unified. See the article on 'Manifestation'. With the way things seem to be speeding up at this time some relationships can come and go more quickly or be whittled down to a core group. People might even come back into your life. You may find yourself more alone or with a new circle of people. Of course some relationships will stay due to various reasons. How about we take a glimpse at 'the mating ritual'. Puffed out chests, big booty's, a sexy dance, an expensive car... anything to aquire a potential 'love' interest. You have got size queens and both men and women getting implants, botox, surgical procedures and madness of all kinds just to attract a mate. Being healthy and fit should be a goal for everyone but there are so many disctractions that keep you away from the real person in question, including yourself. See the blog on 'Body Image' for more. You may attract that special someone but then what? Can you stay together as the real you or them starts to emerge. I also see nothing here about genuine love, just layers of paint covering the strong, broken, shoddy or shallow wall underneath. I could and probably will write and entire article on the corruption of sexual energy. How it has been misused, twisted, distorted and has gone down a horrifying path. Prostitution, slavery, betrayal, manipulation, vamping and power struggles for energy, etc. It's higher aspect all but lost. Polyamory... most people are not even close to being evolved enough to safely and honourably play that game. The fetish scene... that is an entirely different level of energetics but also includes and utilizes the ones just mentioned. Things are playing out that most do not fully comprehend. People love the fantasy, as the reality of certain situations seems too much to endure. Life and relationships can be incredibly difficult at times, especially here. One can get lost in the fantasies, yet, it is the reality of the situation that can be the most beautiful. Beautiful in the sense of clarity and the ability to make informed choices. Add in the fact that it is pure and true. Keep things as genuine and authentic as possible and really observe your expectations. Something that may help is remembering not to love others for their potential, but instead, love them for who they are right now. Potential all too often does not become realized and actualized... at least for many. People do tend to sabotage themselves in relationships due to many types of programming and beliefs like not deserving something or letting the past dictate the present. You may also encounter people unconsciously looking for a way out. Perhaps it is something they can't face about their own inner workings or they are being led elsewhere for various reasons. Playing hard to get or breaking it off with someone to see if they will chase you is just an energy game. No one has anything to prove to you unless they specifically wronged you in the past or have certain patterns that keep playing over. Even then, it is up to you to recognize what is going on. This pattern may stem from abandonment, self-sabotage or vampiric programming but conscious people won't be drawn into it as easily. If someone wants to leave then state your case, and to the best of your ability, let them go. If someone is reaching out to you about something or wishes to connect via text, call or email, etc, then get back to them... in a 'timely' fashion. If one is not fully centered in their being then the interaction or lack thereof can create an energy imbalance thereby disrupting the flow of energy. It can end up vamping your energy as well, having it go to the person who is not answering. There may be very good reasons for not reciprocating. Perhaps the person is a stalker or an emergency kept you from it. There can also be some emotional and energetic ramifications to the act of reconnecting that are behind the scenes. Yet, if the person can go on other social media platforms, post a number things and only get back to you a day later or more... continually... then they have little respect for you or are simply not interested. See the blog on 'Social Media Etiquette' for more. If people are continually offended by something, they may need to check their belief systems or see if the information being pointed out is indeed accurate. It could also be that the other individual is being completely disrespectful. There can be projection... projecting past events onto the current relationship which may or may not be valid as each person is unique although there may be some energetic bleedthroughs. Projection of what you may think they are like based on certain beliefs. Projection of fantasies or the way you want things to be onto the person which may not be based in the reality of the situation. Do your best to recognize this potential pitfall. There is a lot of programming around relationships and how they are 'supposed' to be. Some are very respectful but in many cases people are just doing what they want to do... what do you want to do? Be clear. Commuication and basic outlines are hopefully understood. Look at all of the ridicuolus programming that says you have to be married and have kids to be normal... really? That is a horrible trap for some and may not even be their purpose in this lifetime but they get tricked into it. Then the trap of staying for the kids, etc. Traps within traps, even more deception. Society likes to give off the impression and programming that if you are single then something is wrong with you... when in reality that is far from accurate. People are so programmed by their own bad experiences, by society and the media telling you how relationships 'should' and 'shouldn't' be, it is a wonder that anyone gets along at all. I won't even get started on Valentine's Day... in reality, your partner and others should be treated with the same respect everyday. Expectations... apparently Valentine's Day is the #1 day for break-ups! It will be a wonderful world when people start to wake up and evolve out of this insanity. Those who are sensitive know that energies can come through messages and emails, including psychic attacks. Many people can feel emotions through them which can be difficult enough to process but it can be much deeper. Sometimes you may have your energy sent back as well. It is understandable that a return email may take time or may not come back at all. Once again though, people bring their own programming filters to these experiences and may not interpret them properly. There is a whole other level to all of this as well which was previously alluded to... the energetic aspect. Is there cording, spells, bindings, emotional trauma, karmic patterning, manipulations of all kinds (*see some of the other articles on this website) or even higher soul agreements. There is a lot for you to play with, observe and work through. If you are a consciously aware targeted individual (T.I.) then you might notice those around you being flooded with unfounded thoughts about you or peopole being placed in your life in a way as to purposely damage you. Be very wary of the situation and see the blog on 'Targeted Individuals' for more understanding. For the humans out there that are not robots and can actually feel it can be very difficult at times. You may have parts of yourself that are starving for love and touch. You will have to be very astute as a lot of manipulation can happen behind the scenes that is not conducive to your well being. Some of the greatest gifts we can give another is unconditional love, understanding and avenues to growth and self-empowerment. We can learn a lot from our relationships like our own unique patterning, boundaries, where we are going and where we want to go to. We can have beautiful experiences, be on a roller coaster or have a smooth ride, get derailed and flipped around, traverse many landscapes and even have some fun. There are many wonderful beings out there yet it is wise to be discerning. There are fascinating and unexpected encounters to be had. We can have a relationship with pretty much anything but ultimately we are to cultivate that connection within as we take ourselves wherever we go. We are intention, particles, light and sound. Let us sing our song along with those who can hear it and work in unison to a create a new and brighter future.